Those are some comments I got when I conducted my utterly unscientific survey on this topic with a handful of single women in Beijing, ranging from their twenties to forties. And they agree with the women, Beijing is not a relationship place.
Too many distractions here. I know a few gals who did. But they have been here for a while, usually way over a year, and been through the cycles of dating frustrations.
And then often the relationship happens, when one or both of the partners are about to move away from Beijing, of course in different directions. The typical notion of dating, meaning going out for dinner or a movie, having a drink afterwards, talking and some kissing, maybe even repeat before having sex, that kind of dating does not seem a common occurrence in Beijing.
One-night-stands or short casual flings seem the norm for many guys before they move on to the next women. One friend with an actual "Beijing dating scene" of 2 months commented that 2 months is long for Beijing.
As said before, Beijing is not a relationship place. I met many single women in Beijing, who were not single by choice.
They are pretty, sometimes outright gorgeous, smart, have good jobs, and are fun to hang out with. They often enjoy tremendous attention from local and foreign women alike.
So why limit yourself to just one girlfriend when it is so easy to sample so many? Beijing is a relatively safe place for women, so going out alone or with Beijing dating scene is not a problem. You still need to be careful in the bar areas at night.
Some guys, especially after a few drinks, may feel quite entitled and may not leave you alone. If you are an outgoing person with a positive vibe and an Beijing dating scene smile, you may get hit on a lot.
Most guys are pretty good at taking no for an answer if you are not interested.
They just move on to the next girl. And try again the next time they see you. It seems more dependent on the crowd you hang out with.
The students and younger guys on a budget seem to prefer Chinese girls. The slightly older, professional crowd is more equal opportunity, after the initial bout of yellow fever wears off. It definitely is a myth that all Western guys prefer young Chinese girls. They are also interested in Western women, just in women in general. Even, or sometimes especially, in women older than themselves. Lots of guys — and girls — there are Beijing dating scene for a quick hookup, and some maybe even for more.
Just know that the Beijing expat "Beijing dating scene" can feel very small. Everyone seems to know everyone, or least knows of them. In some social circles casual relationships with other expats can be quite incestuous. So you may want to be very discreet. Skip to primary content. Skip to secondary content. What is dating in Beijing really like then?
So what is the problem? Going out as single woman Beijing is a relatively safe place for women, so going out alone or with girlfriends is not a problem. Please chime in and share.