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They have elected to become LATs — couples who live apart together. These parenthetic Married couple share wife may say something about the arrangement. It is also very expensive — to keep two houses going, especially when you have children, is not something most can afford.

You might presume from the preceding paragraph that I am not a fan of this arrangement.

Sadly, the marriage still ended. But I do not consider the experiment a failure. Then, out of desperation, the idea of living apart together was raised. At first, we thought we had found the holy grail.

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The number of arguments fell, if only because we were spending considerably less time together. For the first few months, it was even quite romantic. However, to me, it never felt like a solution. There Married couple share wife always a question at the back of my mind — how is this going to end? And ending it would have been fairly easy. Having in effect half moved out, and established a separate base, it made the denouement relatively straightforward.

You just had to say the word — all the practicalities were already in place.

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As it happened, we both felt that there was enough hope left to try again as full-time cohabitees. The return — which for me was joyful, at least in the short term — lasted little more than a year before we finally split for good. Moving out had not helped to address any of the underlying issues that led to our separation: Apart from anything else, it bought us three Married couple share wife years as an intact family, in which our children could avoid the pain of having separated parents.

We had some good times and some good holidays during those years, and there were quite a few moments when I really believed it was going to work out. This may include counselling, therapy, meditation, or living apart together — whatever it takes.

We tried them all — and they were all worth trying. I do not think that living apart together as a more permanent arrangement will work for many.

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But it is not a magic pill to cure an ailing marriage — more like a temporary painkiller that sooner or later is bound to wear off. Topics Family Tim Lott's Family column.

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