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The issue of sexual racism is a debate that keeps on raging on amongst members of the LGBT community.

Well that depends on what side of the fence you look at things. When users on Grindr who include such phrases in their profile are challenged on their inclusion of such terms, much of their defence comes back to their right to have a preference.

Why do you have a section that says what race or ethnicity you are? What is the reason for it?

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I mean the fact that you can filter by ethnicity says it all really, Grindr know what they are doing. Personally, I think it would be better if they got rid of it. On dating apps, a person is able to have their own little shopping list of likes and dislikes in a person. It is true that users of gay dating apps, Grindr in particular, have been known to use the filter option to exclude men based on their ethnicity from their view, there is a trend of many of its users using the feature for the opposite reason.

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A growing number of users use the filter option have their search results only bring back men of South Asian, East Asian, Middle Eastern or Black ethnic backgrounds in what many argue is a fetishisation of people based on their race. Being a South Asian man, I will receive messages from other Grindr users and while the conversation appears to be going well and we pass the obligatory niceties, they will always say it or elude to that one sentence that triggers me into rolling my eyes into another galaxy.

Being South Asian becomes the primary reason why they are talking to me in the first place and it overrides any other quality I could possibly have. I can only laugh when I think back to a conversation I had with one guy, who happened to be white, telling me that he liked me because I was Asian, and when I prodded a little further he told me it was because all Asian men are rough in bed and he loved that.

A lot of gay men are using dating apps like Tinder Am i racist for not hookup black Grindr as a way to live out their deepest, darkest fantasies.

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The stereotype of the black man being dominant, having an extremely large penis, being rough in bed and borderline aggressive is an idea many users on gay dating apps, adopt and see no problem in enforcing. Fed up with the constant barrage of ignorant and racially fuelled requests and abuse they get on dating apps; some Am i racist for not hookup black men have taken to social media to expose the true extent of what they experience.

So I can block you and move on with my life. Indigenous gay man screenshots racial abuse online An Indigenous university student has started sharing the frequent racist messages he receives on gay dating app, Grindr to show the wider community how common racist dialogue is on dating platforms, particularly in the gay scene. These sentiments that are echoed by Curtis, another gay black man who told me he regularly receives messages from other men on Grindr who are only interested in whether he lives up to the myth of the black man.

Derrien told me that not everyone has quite reached that stage yet. So that makes me think, how can we as Gay BME men cry foul at the prejudice we experience on apps like Grindr and Tinder, when our very own actively play up to the stereotypes put upon them for validation and attention?

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